“Friendship is the only cement that will hold the world together” – Unknown
What is a friend? According to the dictionary (Collins dictionary, if you’re wondering…) a friend -noun- is ‘a person known well to another and regarded with liking, affection, and loyalty; an intimate’. It’s weird to see the meaning of friend summed up in such an easy way; as if it’s a simple ‘yes’, ‘no’ choice as to whether someone will be your friend or not. I’m not here to try and simplify what a friendship is because to me it’s way more complicated and luck bound than the dictionary likes you to think.
Speaking for myself, I know that it’s often taken for granted that we have friends – good ones, at that! I’ve been extremely lucky to have crossed paths with the people I have; always finding myself surrounded by a group of close friends who I can rely on, and in turn, I hope they can rely on me.
“Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.” – Albert Camus
During day-to-day life having a friend is almost ‘overlooked’. If anything exciting, interesting or tear jerking happens, I instantly turn to my friends for albeit, advice, laughter or general chit chat. It’s common to forget how lucky you are to have somebody to turn to.
Having friends is such a big -and by far one of the best-parts of life. Not only is it easy to take for granted but it’s also easy to forget a friendship you had with somebody, and maybe a move or change in environment (such as changing schools or moving areas) makes you lose contact. Making that effort and taking time out to speak to other people is handwork but definitely rewarding. For me, I know I’ve gradually slipped away and drifted apart from lots of friends; if you told ten year old Jodie that would happen she’d be very angry and upset!
“Things are never quite as scary when you’ve got a best friend” – Bill Watterson
Of course, sometimes friendships drift apart for good reasons and you may be better off without that person. But if you do want you’re friendship to stick then it’s important to work at it!
I guess what I wanted to say is that there is so much value and worth in a good friend, and I seriously wouldn’t trade in my friends even if you offered me thousands of pounds! It’s important to be around the people who inspire you, raise your aspirations and better you as a person. Don’t let a good friendship go, and if you already have – be to open to re-kindling that!
If you’ve got any thoughts about this post – whether you agree or disagree with my thoughts here- then I’m all ears…leave a comment below.
This piece of writing was inspired by the ‘separation’ of ‘The Three Musketeers’ as we all head to different sixth forms, a long term friend from what seems like ages ago (but actually wasn’t) and the little butterflies in my tummy as I look to sixth form and no doubt more friendships forming.